The Ugly Side of Men's Groups and Internet Forums: Why You Should Never Go Into Family Court Alone

By Michael Thompson

Founder of the Falsely Accused Network

One of the most dangerous myths I see circulating in men’s groups, parental alienation forums, and wider online communities is the idea that you don’t need legal assistance in the family court. That it’s “easy” to represent yourself.

Let me be absolutely clear: this is false — and it can ruin lives.

Family court is not a game. It is complex, intimidating, and stacked against those who walk in unprepared. For men who have been falsely accused of serious allegations, the stakes couldn’t be higher. These are allegations which, if proven in a criminal court, would carry long prison sentences. In family court, because the standard of proof is lower balance of probabilities, not beyond reasonable doubt , the risk of losing everything is even greater.

And yet, too many men are being told by online groups that they can simply “wing it.”

Here’s the reality. One man who came to our helpline had been part of a men’s group where he was actively advised not to use a solicitor or even a McKenzie Friend. Instead, he was told to rely on case law that the group had suggested. He walked into court with that advice and his case was thrown out immediately because the case law wasn’t relevant. He left that courtroom devastated, but thankfully reached out to us afterwards. With proper support, he was able to rebuild his case and finally reconnect with his children.

This is a stark warning: following bad online advice can cost you your children, your home, and your future.

The truth is this when you go into family court, you are facing barristers and solicitors who know the law inside out. They understand procedure, evidence, and strategy. Walking in alone is like stepping into the ring with a heavyweight boxer when you’ve never thrown a punch.

At the Falsely Accused Network, our advice is simple:

If you can afford a solicitor, get one. We know some excellent ones with experience in false allegations. They are worth every penny.

If you cannot afford a solicitor, use a McKenzie Friend. We work with highly experienced McKenzie Friends who provide invaluable support at a fraction of the cost.

If you genuinely cannot afford either, use peer support wisely. We provide a free support group, but we will never tell you to face court alone.

Do not underestimate the system. Do not gamble with your future. And above all, do not let myths from online groups lead you into a trap. The difference between going in alone and going in prepared could be the difference between losing your children or rebuilding your life.

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Disclaimer: The Falsely Accused Network supports individuals in England & Wales. We are not a law firm and do not provide legal advice. Any guidance given is general information only. For case-specific legal advice, please consult a qualified solicitor.