Hi All,
Great to join this community. I am in court in a few days (7th Hearing in 8 months), due to my ex witholding the children from court ordered contact wirh me for over a month now claiming lack of funds to pay for court ordered contact. (She made false allegations, based on which the interim 50/50 order was paused and supervised contact was ordered, she was ordered to pay for contact. A section 47 investigarion and a number of police investigations were all closed).
Meanwhile she is alienating the children, telling them lies about me with the intension to bolster her narrative and push towards a fact finding, which she has prepared with further false allegations from her family members abroad.
She knows she is a narcissist, although that has never been diagnosed, and she was resistent to therapy. Since she wants to remove me from our children's lives, but still stay in personal contact with me herself, I started looking into Borderline PD, and now believe she has both conditions - which will be super harmful to the children growing up, especially if she manages to remove me fully from their lives).
In court, I have so far avoided mentioning these disorders by name, save for mentioning that she had proudly declared herself a Narcissist before (which she did, but not in the course of our proceedings).
She however has claimed multiple times that I have ADD/ADHD and PDD, which I dont have.
My questions therefore are:
Did anyone here successfully convince the court to order a psychiatric evaluation/assessment (or whichever the appropriate term is for getting a formal diagnosis of the the other parent), or had one ordered againt themselves? If so, which were the arguments / evidence / factors that convinces the judge?
What threshold of evidence must be met / which behaviour observed to have the judge consider this?
I am keen to prevent her from doing more damage to our children, therefore any signposting and share of your lived experience is much appreciated.